Trying to make a wemo like project - need help/suggestions

On Espruino WiFi boards you can use wifi.setHostName to set a host name, so that if DNS is working properly on your home network you can just access the device via that name. http://www.espruino.com/Reference#l_Wifi­_setHostname

Unfortunately I don't think that's on the ESP8266 yet as we're trying to get a more general-purpose solution using JS, but there is some info and a gist on https://github.com/espruino/Espruino/iss­ues/1376 that might work.

However if you have a server that you know the IP address of or that is available via DNS, I'd just POST your IP (which you can get with wifi.getIP(...)).

I am having hard time to get the external ip(the public ip of my modem)

You'll find that when you post it to your web server, the web server itself should know the IP address of the client that is connecting to it, and you can get it that way.